A small Reminder

5 Mar

Assalamu Alaikum All,

Alhumdulillah we have been able to discuss the blessing and power our tongues have. We have mentioned how this doesnt just stop at what we say, rather how we text, tweet, or update our statuses on Facebook. Our comments, our tones and characters typed all can be help us achieve jannah if carefully used. We cannot stress how we treat one another determines our character! Kill each other with kindness, compliments and warm wishes. Dare to be different 😉

Below is a reminder we found useful for us all to learn!

May allah swt place rahma on us by granting baraka in our speech. Ameen.

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Allah ‘azza wajal says in the Quran, Do not backbite each other, would any of you wish to eat the flesh of your dead brother, no rather you hate it! [Surah Hujarat:12]

Four Tips on How to Overcome the Evil Habit of Backbiting
1. Remember the punishment of Allah and reflect on the ayaat of the Quran that talk about bad speech.
2. Fear that your own faults might be revealed. The Prophet said, O you who believe with your tongues, yet eeman has not entered your hearts. Do not backbite the Muslims, nor follow their faults. For he who follows others faults then Allah will declare (disclose) his faults and he whom Allah reveals his faults, then Allah disgraces him in his own house. [Sunan Abu Dawood]
3. Know that you give your rewards to someone else if you backbite them. A man came to al-Hasan al-Basri (rahimahullaah) and said that he had heard that al-Hasan al-Basri had backbitten him. Upon this he (rahimahullaah) said, Who are you that I may give you my rewards? It is also said; if I would backbite, I would backbite my parents, because they deserve my rewards the most!
4. The most important thing is that there is a great reward in staying away from backbiting. The Prophet said, Whoever protects the honor of his brother in his absence, Allah will protect his face from the Fire on the Day of Judgment. [Sunan at-Tirmidhi]
Don’t’s of the Tongue
Lying (How often do you hear: “I’m not lying, I’m only joking”? This is what the Prophet said about this: A believer does not become a perfect believer until he abandons lying, even as a joke. Until he gives up arguing and debating even if he may be upon the truth and he may be right.[Sunan Abi Dawud]
Verbal abuse
Foul language
Backbiting and slander
How Silence is Golden
To conclude, we can do either of two things with our speech to become successful: 1). use it to encourage to good, or 2). keep silent.
Your speech can be khayr (good), sharr (evil), or laghw (vain). Next to good speech, silence can be a great productivity booster too! Silence can be ‘ibadah; it’s an adornment without jewels and a fortress without walls. It frees us from having to apologise to anyone, the al-Kiraam al-Kaatibeen (recording angels) having nothing to record when we are silent, and our faults are concealed.
Three Ways You Can Control Your Tongue
1. Think.
Imaam ash-Shafiee (rahimahullah) said: If you wish to speak then it is upon you to think before you speak. If you think there is good in it then speak and if not then do not speak. Before you talk, ask yourself: Will this saying of mine please Allah? Will this saying of mine bring me closer to Allah? Does this saying earn with it obedience to Allah? If yes, speak, if not, remain silent.
2. Surround yourself with good company and remind yourself and others to good speech.
It takes two to gossip. Research and learn the punishment for bad speech. Imagine how the punishment in the grave would feel. If the angel of death were to take your soul in would you want bad words to be your last?
3. Use the money jar. The idea is to keep a jar in your house in which you put a certain amount of money whenever you use bad language, for example each time you swear or gossip. The amount you put in should be big enough to make you feel regret and remember how much this bad language will cost you in the Hereafter! You can donate the money to charity.
Do’s of the Tongue:
Read the Quran!
Teach someone beneficial knowledge.
Enjoin good and forbid evil.
Tell others you love them for the sake of Allaah (swt).
Don’t talk too much (excessive speech hardens the heart even if it’s not bad speech).

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